Consent & Safety
Clear rules, compassionate enforcement.
We cannot promise “safe,” but we are relentless about “safer”—with explicit consent, STI accountability, privacy protections, and guardians on duty all night.
If something happens
Tell a guardian or host immediately. We will stop the action, support anyone impacted, document the incident, and decide on next steps, which may include removal from chats and events.
Principles
Consent, clarity, care
Explicit, enthusiastic consent; ongoing check-ins; easy outs; guardians nearby; “red” stops everything immediately.
Consent colors
Green · Yellow · Red
Green: all good. Yellow: check-in now. Red: stop fully. Guardians respond to red instantly and record incidents.
Casual touch
Ask more, assume less
Even light touch should be invited. Avoid hallway grabs and unsolicited DMs; let people opt in with clarity.
STI & sexual health
- STI test required within 3 months of the event. Must include throat swab for oral gonorrhea, plus chlamydia, syphilis, and HIV-1/2.
- Share results as requested before attending; bring them with you.
- Condoms required for all vaginal or anal penetration unless you are fluid-bonded and have chosen otherwise together.
- Use new condoms when switching partners or acts; consider gloves for anal or vaginal play.
- Wash hands and genitals after play; avoid flossing or aggressive brushing right before the party.
- Clean toys after use and cover shared toys with condoms.
Privacy & phones
- No phones in view in shared spaces. The only exception: inside bathrooms, briefly.
- No photos or video during party hours in shared spaces. Limited, fully consented photos allowed only before doors open or after 7:00 AM, or privately in your own room/bathroom.
- When sharing allowed photos in member channels, use disappearing messages and confirm consent from everyone pictured.
- Never share location, passwords, guest identities, or details outside the community.
Substances & bar
- If you show signs of over-intoxication, you may be paused or asked to leave; repeat offenses can remove membership.
- Bartenders may refuse service at their discretion.
- No illicit substances. If a guardian or leadership sees use, you’ll be required to leave.
- Smoking/vaping only on designated balconies; vaping indoors can lead to removal.
Respecting the space
- Use play beds for play, not lounging. Keep voices low near active scenes.
- Leave no trace: dispose of condoms, wipes, and gloves; return toys to their place once cleaned.
- Balcony play only where protected from outside view; follow guardian guidance.
- Depart quietly when you’re ready to go; no big goodbyes that interrupt others.
Incident response
- Guardians and hosts document all incidents and support anyone impacted.
- We may issue warnings, pauses, removal from chats, or removal from events and membership based on severity.
- Harassment, discrimination, pressure, or ignoring “red” can result in immediate removal.
WhatsApp community
- Members-only; links are not to be shared.
- No unsolicited DMs. Reply in-thread and invite DMs if desired.
- No double-posting across groups; keep content relevant to Top Floor.
- No harassment, hate speech, or political debates. Promotions only with host approval (except in the offers group).
- Violations can lead to mutes, removal from chats, and loss of event access.
Aligned?
Join a community that protects your freedom
If these standards feel like home, we’d love to host you. Apply and we’ll guide you through STI steps, consent prep, and logistics via riseto.org.